I understood completely. I’d lived it myself.
There was a time when I knew I was trying REALLY hard. Frankly, I couldn’t do anything more. I’d done everything the doctors, the experts, the specialists, and the therapists had suggested.
I’d read every parenting book and attended way too many parenting events.
I’d spent every penny I had (and more.)
I kept telling myself…
I love my kids unconditionally; I feel like I am a good dad; a good husband; a good man…
BUT…
BUT… my results in my home did not reflect that.
What were my results?
The stress in our world was overwhelming. My wife and I were struggling with frustration and exhaustion and questioning ourselves and our commitment to each other.
My “spirited, challenging, strong-willed” kids were living in a chaos filled home. Walking around on eggshells trying NOT to set off the next crazy event.
So, yeah. Even though I felt like I was doing everything I knew to do, I felt guilt. My family was in peril. My wife was unhappy in our home. My kids didn’t seem to like us.
I… was racked with guilt. Just like Erica.
Erica, too, had done everything she knew how to do. Of course, she LOVES her kids unconditionally. She’d also done everything the doctors, the experts, the specialists, and the therapists had suggested.
And still. She found herself in the same spot as I was.
Wracked with guilt.
Neither of us had the results to reflect what we believed… you know, that we were good parents.
“What am I missing?” We wondered. “What am I doing wrong?” We questioned. “Is it just ME?”
More guilt.
Then, Erica found us…
And she realized… just like I had…
When you are raising spirited kiddos… it’s like you’re being asked to take a test on a subject in which there is NO CLASS and NO GUIDE.
Every situation is incredibly unique. Every child is unique… every family is unique. What works for others may not work for you.
That’s why we need to STOP working on what doesn’t work… and “HOPING” for better results and START working on what DOES work.
What IS THAT? What DOES work? A “recipe” that is customizable to YOUR specific needs. A “recipe” that allows for flexibility in your unique situation with your unique kiddo. A recipe that is based in LOVE. And a recipe that actually WORKS.
It CAN be done. And Erika is doing it right now.
Her GUILT is gone. Replaced by “the right” action and now… her RESULTS reflect that.
Now… she KNOWS she is lowering stress. She KNOWS she is being the best parent she can be for her kiddos. And she KNOWS she’s giving her kiddo the best chance to achieve their full potential.
Want to know what she learned? Reach out to us and we’ll share.
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