She knew

Then She said it.

After 20 years of marriage, six kids, countless struggles and trials…

She said it.

My wife Shelly simply said, as she looked deep in to my eyes…

“You REALLY love me, don’t you?”

Wait. What?

It had been an average Saturday. You know, nothing special. Just the same old day to day stuff.

But it was a good day.

We’d had fun with the kids, running around, going to the park and whipping up some scrumptious tacos together. Chloe (my only daughter) even baked some yummy red velvet cookies.

But none of that is too unusual. Kinda typical Jetsel Saturday fun.

But that night, as Shelly and I rose from kneeling together at the foot of the bed in prayer, I could see she was thinking real hard… you know, because she was kinda quiet.

I gave her a moment as we laid down. These are the times where we’d chat quietly about what was going on. Sometimes it would be what was happening in the days to come, sometimes it would be conversations about one of the kids, many times it would be mindless chit-chat.

But this time I could tell she had something on her mind.

I just quietly waited.

Then she said it. Shelly looked deep in to my eyes and as her eyes glassed up, she said…

“You REALLY love me, don’t you?”

I was shocked. I was confused.

IN MY MIND I considered.

“Are you crazy? OF COURSE I DO. We’ve been married for more than 20 years. We have 6 kids. We’ve never been apart for more than a few days at a time. I am at my happiest when I’m with you. I try and tell you every day, ‘I love you.’ How can you EVEN QUESTION my devotion to you?”

But all I SAID was…

“I love you more than you can imagine.”

After a few minutes she finally said. “I know that.”

And our conversation was over. But not in my mind.

For days I considered… How could she not have ALREADY known of my unending devotion? How could she question why I do what I do? How could she even THINK I didn’t love her deeply?

For awhile it kinda bothered me. Until one day, she called me at work to share with me a “win” she was excited about.

As she described the details of what had happened, I carefully listened and seemed to hear a special spirit in her voice.

And decided…

I don’t know why she wasn’t sure before but I KNOW SHE IS SURE NOW! And that’s what REALLY matters.

Shelly KNOWS.

I KNOW.

Our kids KNOW.

There’s NO QUESTION in anyone’s mind.

Especially in the mind of my Angel, Shelly.

For You Men: It took MY wife 20 years to REALLY know I loved her and to REALLY believe it. And it changed our relationship forever once she did.

Does your wife know it? I mean, REALLY know it and REALLY believe it? If you’re not sure I challenge you to make it a goal in your life.

Before… it’s too late.