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Mom’s. What if you’re asking the wrong question? With all due respect, let me share with you something that may make you a bit uncomfortable. It’s something my wife Shelly (who passed away suddenly in 2021) taught me as she raised our 6 kids. All too often, we as parents are asking the wrong question.…

What if your strong-willed child isn’t always trying to give you a hard time? What if they’re trying to figure out how the world works? Think about it. Your child says no, ow why should I? You say, “Because I said so.” They push back. You get louder. They push harder. And before you know…

Why are other people so hard to get along with? Why are they SO seemingly stupid? Why do they frustrate us SO much? The reason is simple. Almost always… the reason is… But first. Let me share a story—a parable, really—that I heard from author Jack Christenson to make this crystal clear. One of Jack’s…

In October of 2021, my wife Shelly passed away. Thirty years together. Six children. A lifetime of memories. And then, suddenly, silence. Anyone who has walked through deep loss knows this truth: grief does not arrive politely. It comes in waves. It whispers fears in the middle of the night. It takes ordinary moments… a…

Finally. I have just kept a promise I made to Shelly a few months prior to her death. Something that will help families get what she had created… a top 1% happy family and a top 1% happy marriage. It’s all in a book about her life I’ve titled, “The Shelly Method: How to Enjoy…

“Your kids aren’t the problem. They’re the clue.” I know that sounds crazy. Because when your child is screaming, refusing to cooperate, arguing, whining, or doing the exact thing you’ve told them NOT to do for the 47th time… It sure feels like they’re the problem. But what if their behavior is actually giving you…

I’ve been thinking a LOT about this lately… because I understand the need to vent sometimes but none of us wants to be considered a complainer, right? So, many times we may say… “I’m NOT complaining… I’m venting.” But what’s the difference between complaining and venting?  So, I looked it up and the Dictionary reads:…

If your child seems to argue with everything, refuses simple requests, pushes every boundary, and somehow turns “Please put your shoes on” into a 20-minute battle, you may be wondering: “What am I supposed to do with a child like this?” Here’s my unpopular opinion based on what I learned from my wife Shelly: Stop…

If you’ve ever told your kid to do something five times, and somehow they still haven’t done it… join the club. You… Are… Not… Alone. But here’s something I learned from my wife, Shelly: A kid who won’t listen isn’t always a kid who needs more discipline. Sometimes they need a parent who understands what…

If you’ve ever asked, “Why won’t my kids listen to me?”, I want to challenge that question. Why? You may be asking the wrong one. After raising six kids, studying parenting, and watching my wife Shelly develop what became the Shelly Method (www.theshellymethod.com) I’ve learned that “My kids won’t listen” is rarely the entire problem.…