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If you’ve ever told your kid to do something five times, and somehow they still haven’t done it… join the club. You… Are… Not… Alone. But here’s something I learned from my wife, Shelly: A kid who won’t listen isn’t always a kid who needs more discipline. Sometimes they need a parent who understands what…

If you’ve ever asked, “Why won’t my kids listen to me?”, I want to challenge that question. Why? You may be asking the wrong one. After raising six kids, studying parenting, and watching my wife Shelly develop what became the Shelly Method (www.theshellymethod.com) I’ve learned that “My kids won’t listen” is rarely the entire problem.…

Maybe you yelled yesterday… maybe you lost your patience this morning… maybe your child is struggling, and you don’t know what to do. And later, when everyone is finally asleep, you replay the day in your head… “Am I messing this up? Am I damaging them? Am I a terrible mom?” I know that question…

I remember watching Shelly one evening after what most people would have called an exhausting day. The kitchen looked like a tornado had wandered through it. One of our kids was crying because someone looked at them “the wrong way.” Another had somehow managed to spill milk in three different places with one cup. Dinner…

Last year, I got one of those phone calls every parent dreads. It was the police. Before they took my twenty-five-year-old son to jail, one of the officers called me personally. He explained that my son had been arrested for misdemeanor trespassing and assault. Then he paused for a moment and said something that I’ll…

I was a poor, angry young man. I grew up as a minority in my neighborhood, and I carried that fact everywhere I went. Everything felt personal. Every disrespect felt intentional. By the time I graduated high school, I had a chip on my shoulder so heavy it seemed to bend my posture. I wasn’t…

My take on Freud VS Adler psychology. With Freud… everything is about your childhood, parents and repressed trauma. You’re “broken” because of what happened TO you. Healing means going back and unpacking every last moment. With Adler… our past matters, but our beliefs, goals and our sense of MEANING matter more. Adler believed healing came…

Recently, one of my kids made a decision that caused him to have to face some harsh consequences. The kind of consequences that can be… well, heart-wrenching. But… at the same time, allow him to learn valuable lessons about how the world works. I was not surprised. I could foresee the consequences were a possibility…

Today… on Thanksgiving Day… I’m especially grateful… for… Thirteen More Years. Why? That’s how much MORE time we got with Shelly. Let me explain. A little over thirteen years ago, Shelly, approached me with tears in her eyes and said, “I love you, Kyle… can we try once more for a girl? I feel like…

Darkness engulfed me… and I was shocked at the power of the storm. It may not surprise many to learn that after my wife Shelly passed away, it was a bit overwhelming emotionally for me to go into my bedroom for more than a few minutes at a time. I mean… our bedroom was pink.…